A More Fitting Name

In response to this recent post by Our Next Life, in which they discussed their reservations over using the term “frugal” to describe themselves and their situation, I commented, in part, with the following:

…I believe that frugality comes with many definitions from each individual or family’s point of view. Like you guys, we would probably not truly be considered frugal in a lot of areas of our finances. However, I still consider us to be relatively frugal because of the fact that, right now, we are shelling out well over 50+% of our income, paying off debt and eventually increasing our investment options once we reach debt freedom. We don’t scrimp and rarely tell ourselves no…it’s all about intentional living, thereby utilizing your finances to best further your own agenda and goals.

Upon further pondering about this subject, I came to the realization that, while I stand by my personal view and general definition of being frugal, we do not truly fit the ideal picture of frugality either.  It’s a fact that we are, indeed, utilizing over 50% of our income to systematically destroy our current debt and have every intention of continuing to utilize the same (and more) for investments once the debt is gone; however, in most other realms of our finances, we’re not overly frugal.  Rather, we more fit the bill of intentional living and mindful spending of our money on things that we find to be enjoyable and fulfilling of our goals and general happiness.

In recent weeks, I have found myself constantly thinking about our purchases, often thinking to myself…”well, that’s not really the frugal thing to be doing.”  I find this to be rather stressful, a drain on my mental faculties, and a general waste of my valuable time.

Therefore, inspired by the above mentioned post and upon introspective reasoning, I have decided to forgo the idea of being “Frugal RN,” and am in the works of making a transition of this site over to a new primary web address.  However, I will be keeping “frugaltravelnurse.com” active, as it will certainly fit-the-bill and come in useful in a few years when we hit the road and I begin working as a travel nurse.

However, from here on out, I will refer to myself as the…

“RN on Fire”

…as I believe it more closely aligns with the overall purpose of this blog, as well as our general life goals.  Regardless of the path we blaze to get there, whether it be through frugality or simply more mindful spending, FIRE is our ultimate goal.

If we’ve already met and you’re following along with my family’s journey, thank you so much!  It is an absolute pleasure to have the opportunity to get to know you and follow along with your journey, as well.  If you’re visiting this site for the very first time, thank you and I really hope you will decide to join us by following along.  I would love to hear from you and learn from you as we navigate this crazy experience we call life and make our way toward financial independence and early retirement.

I hope you all enjoy the new look of the site!

Your Humbled and Gracious Host,

– RN on Fire

8 thoughts on “A More Fitting Name

  1. I feel the same way, we’re not overly frugal too but rather focus on intentional spending. Last night we spent $100 on a dinner! That hurt the wallet and the budget.

    I do embrace the terms frugal (and to a lesser degree cheap) because that’s how I think I’m identified by the people around me. It’s a little simpler to explain those concepts to people rather than get into a detailed conversation about intentional spending. I find that people are often bored about the subject of personal finance. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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    • First, I hope dinner was delicious! 🙂

      Secondly, I think that part of the problem revolves around individuals mistakenly thinking that “frugal” and “cheap” are synonyms, when that is certainly not the case. In your instance of dinner, for example, if you were cheap, you would have refused to spend $100 on dinner and instead insisted on eating a bologna sandwich when everyone else wanted to go out. Being frugal, i.e. spending intentionally, affords you the opportunity to utilize your money in such a way that provides you with both value and satisfaction. At least, I certainly hope your $100 dinner wasn’t disgusting and, instead, provided you with some semblance of enjoyment! lol

      And to your last point about people being bored about personal finance…that’s only because they haven’t discovered the incredible joys of Excel spreadsheets! 😀

      In all seriousness though, I think it has a lot to do with the social taboo of talking about money in general. I have a post draft regarding this very topic that you have now inspired me to revisit and dig back into..thanks!!!

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        • Saaaaaaaaaame here! There’s never a problem to discuss when you simply avoid the topic altogether. People (myself included) have a hard time not taking the subject personal (pun intended :-D) and it becomes more about a who’s-better-than-who situation, as opposed to an open conversation that has the potential to lead to better outcomes for all involved. I’m certainly glad we’re both doing better these days 🙂


        • Glad to hear! Around here, $100 would buy about 8 pounds of tenderloin, with plenty extra for salads and a bottle of wine. You’re more than welcome to a cookout the next time (first time?) you’re visiting the great state of South Dakota 🙂

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    • I found your post to be very inspiring and the name change to be extremely liberating. I no longer feel as if there is this particular box I need to try to fit into, so as not to feel like I’m being deceitful in any way on here. Thank you so much; and it’s a pleasure to have you along for the ride!

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