If We Were Having Coffee…(4/9/16)

If we were having coffee, I would tell you about my wife, Cheyenne, and how she is my greatest friend, the mother of my son, and the love of my life who has stuck by me for nearly 11 years, in spite of all the times she should’ve simply told me to go fuck myself.

You see, I haven’t always been the loving husband and father that I am today.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always loved her…but there were countless numbers of times where I didn’t put her first and treat her like the priority that she should’ve been in my life.  I could make excuses and blame it on being young and immature, but that’s bullshit.  I was simply too damn dumb to see what was right in front of my eyes and I way-too-often took her for granted.  Words cannot express how grateful I am that she has stood by me, but I’ll never truly understand the why.  I have come to realize how each and every one of my mistakes could have led to her ending our relationship, and that each one of those instances would have had the capability of subsequently leading to our son not existing.  Take a sip of your coffee and just let that marinate and sink in for a moment.  The thought of it truly breaks my heart and I will never jeopardize our unknown future again.  Witnessing the power of the butterfly effect in my own life is revolutionary in that I no longer think in the here-and-now; instead, my priorities are solid and my thoughts, actions, and planning are forecast years into the future, thereby allowing me to learn from my past mistakes and, therefore, make greater decisions in the present.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that my wife is truly astounding and that I have never, nor will I ever, be truly deserving of her.  However, until she wises up and realizes that (maybe by reading this? ;)) I’m gonna hold on tight as hell and never let her go.

What would you tell me about your significant other?  Have you experienced any butterfly effect moments in your own life through your own mistakes/choices/experiences that have had the potential to completely decimate your entire world as you currently know it?  Let me know in the comments below; thanks for joining me.

12 thoughts on “If We Were Having Coffee…(4/9/16)

  1. Congratulations on 11 years! ML and I were chatting recently about the fact we would have been different people if we hadn’t met each other. We met just after high school so we became adults together. We were so in love that we allowed the other person to change us, in some aspects, luckily we always had each other’s best interest at heart. He’s made me more understanding and encouraged foolish fun. He says I’ve made him more spontaneous and uo for adventure.

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    • That’s incredible! 🙂
      Is amazing what we can/will do for our best friend. I, too, would be a completely different person without my wife’s boot-in-the-ass to be the successful person that I’ve become…lol…funny, but oh so true! Congrats on finding your best friend, as well 🙂

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    • Thank you! 🙂

      I’m curious…do you truly think that he doesn’t? What would make you think he doesn’t? And, also, have you asked our spoken to him about that? If not, it sounds like you definitely should. Just my two cents 🙂

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        • I understand…we have grown into where we currently stand in our relationship, as well. It’s definitely a good thing, so long as you’re growing with each other and not simply apart and heading in opposite directions 🙂


  2. My story is similar to yours. I was immature and not very responsible most of my adult life but she stuck with me through it all.

    I would tell you that I am where I am today with my life and career because my wife believed in me even during the times I didn’t believe in myself.

    Great post!

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    • Thank you, Vic! Sounds like our lovely ladies are responsible for where our heads are currently at, removing them where they were once firmly placed. 😉 lol

      Excellent sorry, man; thanks for sharing! 🙂


  3. It sounds like you are a young loved couple.
    We are doing fine, and it getting slowly to better. With the kids, jobs personal stuff, there is not always enough time for “us”. Lethally, we are rebalancing things better. We now also understand way better each default behaviour, thx to a DISC test at work… 🙂 Fringe benefits!

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    • I’m glad to hear things are well with you 🙂 I understand the behavior stuff too. My wife always tells me that she can “read me faster than I can write!” lol

      I hear ya on the lack of personal time; we’d never change a single thing or give up a single second of tune with our kiddo, but one-on-one time is usually lacking. However, my wife is currently getting our son to bed (it’s a little after 9,) and then we’re going to enjoy a late super for us and a movie rented from Amazon…Tom Hank’s Bridge of Spies…hope it’s good! 😀

      Good night!

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