If We Were Having Coffee…(4/15/16)

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that this week has been AWESOME…except for that one thing

The weather around our neck of the woods has been absolutely incredible this past week.  Warm, sunny, and, of course, windy (as always!)  I swear our son would live outside if we’d let him and that’s pretty much what we’ve been doing.  Our seed potatoes arrived by mail and I got them planted alongside the sprouting strawberry plants we put in the ground last year…they returned! 😀  Last year we enjoyed SIX of, I kid you not, the greatest strawberries I have ever eaten; hopefully this year will produce more as the plants are producing some runners.  Also, our son helped me put fresh potting soil in our PVC tube planters, which were initially a failed effort as strawberry planters but this year we are going to plant some small annuals of marigolds and evening primrose in them.  We’ll see how well that turns out.  If you haven’t seen this project idea, give it a Google because it’s really cool.  Maybe I’ll post a picture…especially if the flowers don’t let us down!  Also, we gave the Jeep an awesome and well-deserved scrubbing.  My wife cleaned and vacuumed the inside with exceptional detail and I, along with a little help from our son on the hose, gave her a good bath (the Jeep…not my wife! ;))

Everything else around the house is starting to flower out nicely, as well.  We planted a rose bush and a lilac bush last year, as well as two dwarf apple trees that are going strong, and nearly all of our lily bulbs from two seasons ago are exploding with new growth.  Also, I dug up one of the five chokecherry bushes along our sidewalk to make things symmetrical and to make room for the construction of two new flower beds that are each going to measure roughly 3′ x 15′.  We discussed planting tulips last fall but held off and have now decided that we are going to do so this year.  I ordered the bulbs from Colorblends and they’ll be arriving around the first week of October; here’s to hoping we’re not shoveling snow to get them planted!

I also put up a couple shelves and a tool organizer in the garage that have helped with organization and safety to keep some things out of our son’s reach.  We are going to begin working on going through our stored stuff in the basement and pricing more things for a garage sale this spring/summer.

That pretty well sums up our spring cleaning and outdoor fun-time progress this week.

So…..back to that one thing…

Have you ever done something so catastrophically dumb that it made you feel physically ill?  I managed to do that this week.  Yesterday, actually.  I have this habit where I, without even consciously thinking about it, take my thumb and pinky and spin my wedding ring around on my finger.  Well, I happened to do that last night at work and realized that my ring wasn’t on my finger!  I immediately felt sick to my stomach, thinking I had somehow managed to wrap it up in some disposable gloves in a patient’s room and threw it in the trash.  Yep..my mind went there.

Last week, before going to bed, I took my ring off  to put lotion on my hands and forgot to put it back on, leaving it on the counter for the night so I was HOPING that’s what I had done this time.  I texted my wife and asked if she had seen it.  She hadn’t!  :-S  Okay, the next logical possibility was that I left it in the pocket of my shorts the night before when I took it off to put lotion on our kiddo after his bath.  However, it hadn’t turned up in the laundry so that was a no go, as well.  Or maybe I did do that and it fell out of my pocket and got lodged in the recliner while reading to him before bed?  I was holding out hope that that was the answer and so I controlled my panicking and waited it out until morning.

Morning came…I went home and checked the recliner…and the couch…and the bathroom…and the bedroom…see where I’m going with this!?!?!?!?!??!

My wife then had a thought.  She asked, did you sit it on top of the Jeep when you put on sunscreen yesterday?  Prior to her getting in the car and heading to the post office, I had taken the bottle of sunscreen off the top of the car where I had left it.  That previously mentioned sickening feeling had returned with full force at that point and, rightfully so, my wife was, shall we say, less than pleased with me as we both come to the realization that my ring was quite likely gone for good.

Thankfully, the post office is only a few miles from our house and we live in a not-heavily-traveled area.  I headed out the front door and started walking her traveled path.  After about a quarter mile, I turned around and got the Jeep, driving instead and making frequent stops where I felt the change in the road could have caused the ring to slide off the roof.  No luck with the first few stops.

Finally, about a mile from the house, I came to a spot that I knew there was no way the ring could have stayed on beyond that turn due to the change in the road terrain.  I got out, glanced around, and I FOUND IT!  While I was still incredibly pissed off at myself for the situation in general, that was a moment of pure elation and relief.

I love my wife and I have cherished my wedding band since the day I put it on; however, this “experience” has resulted in my viewing this ring in a whole new light.  While I don’t like to project feelings onto inanimate objects, this is completely different.  An inanimate object like my cell phone, for example, is replaceable, and is not worthy of having feelings attached to it.  If my phone fell off the roof of our car, got ran over, and smashed into a thousand pieces, I’d be irritated at the monetary loss of replacing the thing but, all-in-all, no big deal, I’ll order another one tomorrow.  However, my ring, which is now and will remain glued to my finger (figuratively, of course :-D,) is irreplaceable.  Sure, I can buy another ring, just like I could buy another cell phone.  But I can’t buy this ring…this ring that my loving wife placed on my finger the day we were married.

I hate disappointing my wife and that’s exactly what I did.  She, again rightfully so, stayed pretty pissed at me for the majority of the day.  I don’t even wanna imagine how the day would’ve gone if I hadn’t found the ring.  We won’t venture down that road.  You’ll be happy to know that, thankfully, we’ve since made up and we’re still best friends!  🙂

All that being said, here is my extremely public acknowledgement of my immense screw up and, to go along with it, my globe-encircling apology.  I’m sorry, my love.  It took me two years to temporarily lose my ring; here’s to hoping you’ll give me another 80 to try and not do it again!  😉  I love you!

– Brandon

Back to my question:  have you ever done something so catastrophically dumb that it made you feel physically ill?  I’d love to hear your story if you’re willing to share!

P.S. – wanna know an ironic (dare I say funny?  Just kidding…not funny!) coincidence in this whole story?  I’m posting about this for the #weekendcoffeeshare and, when my wife went to the post office, she was going to pick up my coffee order from Honest Roast Coffee.  It’s insanely good coffee; but, seriously, WTF?!  😐

13 thoughts on “If We Were Having Coffee…(4/15/16)

  1. I’m so glad you found the ring! ML and I are awful with ours sometimes. I had mine go missing for four months once,turns out it was lodged under a couch.
    We knew it was in the house somewhere as I never take it off outside the home so we weren’t too concerned.

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  2. Glad it was found. I’m super paranoid about my engagement ring stone popping out and me losing it. In fact, your post makes me want to get it tightened this weekend. My husband thought his ring was lost forever too once at the gym. Luckily someone found it before he even realized where he had lost it.

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  3. so glad you found your ring! I can imagine how anxious you felt. Makes a wedding ring tattoo sound like a sure way to never lose your ring (hopefully). 😀

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  4. What a great story. unbelievable you did all that walking and tracing back the ring. Then again, for a lost ring, you do a lot. Actually, I have also a happy ending story on my ring.

    A few weeks ago, I was at a work event, walking from my car to the venue and slipped and fell. my ring slid of my finger, I heard it hit the ground and roll. Then no more sound. It was dark already, starting to rain. I looked and found nothing. Later that night, we went out with some people and flash lights. When we were about to go back in, a colleague sees a shining object in an era we were not looking at all: My Ring.

    I gave her a big hug! It is our Human resources responsible…

    I now wear my ring at my other finger. That finger seems to be a little thicker.

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  5. Wow! that’s some luck my friend. I have done this sort of thing numerous times! Glad it turned out well. I know how you must of felt. I wanted to skip ahead to find out what happened…LOL…thanks for sharing.

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  6. Yikes! I know that feeling. The worst! But I’m glad you found the ring — amazing that you did!

    But I know that ultimately, the ring really is a “thing” — and that what really is irreplaceable is the love you and your wife share, and the life you’ve built together. No doubt, she’d be pissed if you lost the ring for good. And no doubt, you would feel the loss, and be angry at yourself. But you would still have each other, and that at the end of the day is the BIG IMPORTANT part.

    (But maybe don’t take the ring off again! 🙂 )

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    • Oh she was DEFINITELY pissed! She wasn’t sharing much love that day either 8-/ lol!

      Also, way ahead of ya on not taking it off again…even if I take it off for a moment, I hold it in between my lips so I am physically incapable of walking away…lol. 🙂

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