A couple weeks ago, I got a call that my grandpa was, yet again, hospitalized this year. He’ll be 80 later this year and has, surprisingly enough, had lung cancer for the past 16 years. Sixteen years ago, he was given six months to live as he refused treatment and, instead, chose to go home and enjoy his easy chair, cigarettes, and coffee with grandma. Now, all these years later, the cancer has grown (although, amazingly enough, not spread) and, along with other health problems he’s been facing, he’s spilling sodium for some unknown reason and, in all likelihood, it’s only a matter of time before things begin to further decline. For now though, he’s back home, spunky as usual, where he wanted to be all along. So, for now at least, it’s just a waiting game. Obviously, he’s still choosing to not do anything about the cancer at this point in his life and who really knows how much time he’s got left? Anyway, all is well for now but, when we got the news, we decided to make an unplanned trip back to Illinois to visit with him and the rest of the family that we haven’t seen in nearly a year.
During our two days on the road to Illinois, my wife and I had the opportunity to discuss my “worries” over our finances. The fact of the matter is that we’re actually doing great and our progress for the year is, in my humble opinion, rather remarkable considering how we could be doing the “normal” thing and blowing through our money in comparison. She, in her omnipotent wisdom ;), very rightfully pointed out to me that I am entirely too obsessed with the whole process and that I really need to work on refocusing my energy. I haven’t made a post in nearly a month and haven’t even looked at my spreadsheets for the past week (other than to pay bills) and, you know what….she’s right! It feels indescribably incredible to back off on the obsessive thoughts of making sure every little thing is going perfectly and, instead, sit back and realize that things are actually going awesome and that some things just take a little time. Damn, she’s smart.
If by some chance you missed it, head over and see my buddy Ernie at Purple Sweatpants; he recently had a similar epiphany, writing a post titled Refocusing My Financial Goals. I e-mailed him from one of our hotel rooms on the road home and told him that I was having the same types of feelings on our finances and that it’s really good to know I’m not alone in those types of thoughts.
Do you find yourself having similar obsessive issues that may be bordering on unhealthy? I sure as shit was! If this doesn’t resonate with you at all…awesome! However, if it does, please know that it’s okay and that, if you can find the strength to do so, back off, take a breather, and re-prioritize. I’d bet my debt that you’ll feel (at the very least) a little better and maybe even come out with a stronger resolve to tackle your goals head-on, while simultaneously improving your overall mental well-being. Rome wasn’t built in a day and I’m not gonna FIRE tomorrow. It’s time to lighten the f*** up. 🙂
– Nurse on Fire
P.S. – my next post, coming your way on Tuesday, is inspired by the oft-quoted Robert Frost poem, The Road Not Taken. It’s been sitting in my draft box for a few weeks and got a new twist and some added inspiration thanks to Our Next Life’s latest challenge surrounding the poem. Also, if you haven’t already subscribed to follow along with my family’s journey, I certainly hope you decide to do so. Lastly, if this is your first (or second, third, or 80th :)) time checking out my blog, I definitely hope you decide to comment below or Say Hello! Have an amazing weekend!